I’m trying to slow down and check in on the things that really matter. The idea for this post came from Latonya Yvette, who regularly does Motherhood right now posts.
The past few months have, in all reality, been the hardest ones of my life. As a family we have juggled far more than is reasonable or should be managed and it has, unsurprisingly, taken it’s toll on all of us. Both Andy and I have been stressed out and run down, and dealt with some physical ailments as a result – like, a hernia (Andy) and a chest infection (me). It’s hugely affected our ability to parent in the way which we want to, and which we have accustomed our children to. We’ve had support in the form of in-laws, and it has taken a while for this to happen, but the stress eventually did trickle it’s way down to the kids. Namely, in the form of rebellious behaviour (Poppy) and frequent high-pitched shrieking (Lulah).
Our initial response – based on the fact that this is completely new territory for us – was discipline, which I now realise was the wrong tactic considering the circumstances. It was, obviously, completely ineffective and only increased everyone’s stress levels. We’ve since made some headway through consciously slowing down, being less reactive, and working hard to show each other affection.
Now that we are in January, I’m thinking a lot about my own intentions for this new year. I’ve realised that, despite all of the photos that we take (my husband is a professional photographer), we actually have very few printed and on display in our home. We also have next to none taken from the perspective of the little people, which I think is so important. One of my goals is going to be to get our family an instant camera (like a Fujifilm Instax Mini) which I think will be perfect for the kids to use. Poppy has been keen on taking photographs for as long as I can remember (she want’s to be Daddy’s assistant when she’s bigger, be still my heart), and so this seems like the perfect way to nurture her interest.
I also want to find space for us to enjoy the bits that really matter.
Another goal which I’ve been ruminating over, is finding a way to get more routinely organised. I think that giving some structure to the banal aspects of daily life (think: getting school uniforms and bags prepared the night before, meal planning at the start of the week, weekly online grocery shopping) will help us feel less bogged down by the pressure of everyday parenthood, so that we can redirect our energy and attention to joy.
Do you have any parent-based goals or resolutions of your own?